Bad Behavior in our Adopted Children; Is There a Trigger?
There almost always seems to be a trigger when my wife and I see bad behavior in our adopted children. When two of them get milk, they turn disobedient obstinate argumentative feral. Feral…
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Challenge Limits Instead of Limiting Challenges
We challenge limits instead of limiting challenges in our family. Rippling biceps; six pack abs; toned calves and thighs… yep; that’s how my family members look. On the inside. Oh, we're not…
Empathy is Probably not What you Think it is.
I had always understood empathy to be trying to imagine myself in someone else’s shoes, and then trying to understand how it would feel. I got it half right. Empathy was the greatest…
Russian Orphans: The Moisieva Koshkina Family
The Moiseyeva/Koshkina family lived in half of this duplex in Fralovka, Russia. This is where Maria Anatolievna Moiseyeva and Vitaly Anatolievich Moiseyev were born. Recently we changed things in this document to…
Survivor Syndrome and Children Adopted From Orphanages
Survivor Syndrome has been rough on my daughter. Sarah had been home from Russia for five years when we met with her friends, in Spain. Those three girls were part of the…
Inconsistency and Reactive Attachment Disorder: Vacations
Inconsistency and Reactive Attachment Disorder make vacation the Devil! The whole reason that our children have Reactive Attachment Disorder is tied to the fact that there was so little consistency in their…
Overstimulation and Reactive Attachment Disorder: Vacations
Overstimulation and Reactive Attachment Disorder make vacation the Devil! My daughters who have Reactive Attachment Disorder have stared death in the face. I won’t bother to detail all of the types of…
Hypervigilance and Reactive Attachment Disorder: Vacations
Hypervigilance and Reactive Attachment Disorder make vacations the Devil! To this day I can’t make a sudden move near any of my children who have Reactive Attachment Disorder without them throwing up…
Finding Faith: Why Does God Care?
Finding Faith Finding faith, for me, never comes easy. Maybe it's true… things are always in the last place you look. While I was raised in an active Christian home and…
Children Available for Adoption: Behind Magic Doors
There are children available for adoption. They probably aren't where you're looking, unless you happen to be looking behind magic doors. I spend a lot of time in the online adoption community…
The n Word: He Might Have Lambasted her. Instead, he Welcomed her to America
I was exhausted as we landed in New York. It had been almost a month long trip to Russia, dealing with Soviet style bureaucracy, when we finally succeeded with the adoption. I was bringing home…
Mercy or Justice? A Story of Orphans: You be the Judge
To me, it wasn't initially a question of mercy or justice. It was just what should have been done. I was shocked when the judge said that our adopted children had done…