Dream Family: The Family I always Wanted
While not everything in my childhood was bad, very little in my home resembled my dream family. Moments of joy were surrounded by terror and betrayal. In the depths of my shattered…
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The RAD Child Development Called Reactive Attachment Disorder
For two of my daughters, inconsistency in needs being met and the rotating caregivers that provided for those needs made up the incubator that caused RAD child development to thrive. Reactive Attachment Disorder:…
My Mom in Russia She Very Bad and Nobody Taught Her. She Died and Make me so Sad
The military village of Emily's orphanage. Barracks are yellow. Her orphanage is the white building in the center of the picture. beginning my mom from Russia, nobody taught her how to be…
Girls From Russia are Hard (It's not Russia, Though)
Of course it has nothing to do with nationality, but that is what Sarah perceived. She was too inexperienced to understand her statement as judgmental, nationalistic, politically incorrect, or anything other than…
When Adopted Children Don’t Feel Safe at Home
My wife’s father was a notorious sex felon. She left her first family at fifteen and entered the foster system where the form of abuse changed without stopping. She could relate to…
Making Home Feel Like Home: Family, Happiness and Love in Spite of Challenges
The outside of our current home is not nearly as impressive as the feelings were inside the most humble place our family has ever lived. Neither Amy nor I came from money.…
First Time I See My Family Again
Emily with her sister, Annie, Dyedushka Bill, and her new mother, Amy First time I never saw my sisters, because I abused them and I went to jail. Mom and dad come…
My Dad and the Farm in Russia
Emily's house on Sofkhoznay (Community Farm) Road in Fralovka, Russia. First I went with my dad from Russia and I am helping to my Russian dad like put bucket in the wail.…
I Have Lots of Problems About my Life
Emily on a beach at Golden Horn Bay, near Vladivostok, soon after leaving her orphanage. First I came to Amarica, first I make bad choices. And when I come to Amarica I…
Challenge Limits Instead of Limiting Challenges
We challenge limits instead of limiting challenges in our family. Rippling biceps; six pack abs; toned calves and thighs… yep; that’s how my family members look. On the inside. Oh, we're not…
Orphans: I'm Tired of Hearing it.
Western society was shocked in the mid 1990s when we heard that there were 132 million orphans in the world. As good hearted people took this number at face value, many rushed…
My Lydia
Emily telling Lydia goodbye My family came to visit me then I was in the orphinige. Also after when I was adopted I spent time with my sister Annie and my…