Orphans: I'm Tired of Hearing it.
Western society was shocked in the mid 1990s when we heard that there were 132 million orphans in the world. As good hearted people took this number at face value, many rushed…
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Empathy is Probably not What you Think it is.
I had always understood empathy to be trying to imagine myself in someone else’s shoes, and then trying to understand how it would feel. I got it half right. Empathy was the greatest…
Adopted Children Feel Secure Loving More, Not Less
It has been said that love is the answer no matter the question. Right or wrong, I can tell you this: In our family, adopted children feel secure loving more, not less.…
Emily's Introduction
Emily at her orphanage in Nicolaivka, Russia in 2005 I love my family because family important to me and also my family care about me and they give me life. I believe…
Better off Without International Adoption? Not Hardly.
Oksana lived in half of this "Duplex" with her five children and three other adults. Of course there are days when I am ashamed of some of the people on my side…
When Mothers’ Day is Hard for Children
Mothers Day Hard for Children My adopted daughters struggle with all of the conflicting feelings that come with a Mothers’ Day fraught with memories of a birth mother who brutally abused them,…
A Mistake Adoptive Parents Never Need to Make Again
As Seen on Huffington Post Oh, I talk the talk. I try to walk the walk. When it comes to difficult circumstances, I always try to focus on what is best for…
The Adoption System Isn’t Fair
As Seen in Huffington Post I can’t stand the waiting! I don’t know if I can handle another failed referral. What if they change their minds? What if I don’t get picked?…
Reactive Attachment Disorder I Need Your Help withThree Things
Because my daughter has Reactive Attachment Disorder I need your help with three things. Some people think that RAD means my daughter can’t emotionally attach to others. It doesn’t. Attachment is like…
Playing to Your Strengths - The First Step in Adoption
Were you raised in a multi-ethnic family or neighborhood? Do you have lots of friends and family who would crush people that made an issue out of race? Maybe you had a…
Troubled Child Adoption
Amy Simmons with six of her nine children As Seen on Adoption.net Troubled child adoption is about loving enough to accept not being trusted. I learned that by watching my wife’s example.…
Adopting a Child with Down Syndrome: Winning in Vegas
Our family was so wrong. We thought that adopting a child with Down syndrome would be about what we could do for him. The error of thinking like that was one of the first of…